Monday, January 31, 2011


So why do we have the tendency to take an expert's words over our own? How come we relate to something thruthful being expressed when it is not said by an expert? In short: why on earth would we have the tendency to take another's word over our own?

This morning I read both a statement saying: 'trust your own inner guidance system' and saw a youtube video of a 8 year old girl with a delightful opinion on how things are being done in Egypt. Many people related to both posts.

It appears we may find ourselves increasingly so in a time where we learn to trust our own wisdom more and more. Only those who are unsure venture out to get confirmation on that which they really already know to be true. (That or if you would find yourself in a position of being lost or clue less.) So how do we get clued in? How do we find that answer we are looking for? Google it?

Self empowerment start at the front door. It starts with the dawning realisation that all has changed, gone to custard or need re-alignment. People only change when they see the need to. Once through the door of realisation we come to the newfound understanding that indeed we are in the ''in between'' stage. We scramble, we muck around, we play, whatever fashion feels right to guide our akward feeling journey towards a new discovery. And then all of a sudden; there it is! An apple lands on our head or something equivalent happens. We know instantly what it is we need to do. No one can deviate us from this because it's one of those big ahas.

And when this happens to us, oh boy, miraculous things happen! We get new work out of the blue, we meet the right people to take us further, we simply focus more on something that inspires us and drives us on, we simply as they say "just go for it".

So who is the best expert about what you should do on any given time? There you are!

Tuesday, January 25, 2011


Interesting question:
how can we learn to be at peace, as we're always seeking to improve ourselves? We always have a goal further down the road. (See? Told you it's fascinating!)

I'm not talking about the contrast that is provided every day, the things we come across we like and do not like. I have been practicing observing myself more opposed to observing others. This has been a sensible activity. I'm not staring at my own navel (as they say in Holland) but simply it's been useful and educational to become aware of my old behavior and programmed responses in order to remind myself of where I'm intended to go, and continue to grow. This way I can slightly adjust my "acting" and "doing" along the way instead of battling myself to the ground. A much more friendly approach.

Mostly it's being aware about taking things in our stride and becoming aware that we create our own experiences. Yes lot of it has to do with our own attitude and that which we understand.  Friend Ivan Campuzano has written a beautiful post about "that which you give attention to". He even goes as far as saying that which we give attention to is Godly. And so it is. Another online friend, Michael Q Todd, wrote on his FB page this week saying: "My weight is dropping because I am at peace with myself and with food". Stunning isn't it? I thought that was quite a Godly sentiment too, a self appreciation statement.

So how can we give attention to inner peace?

Follow your feelings that inspire you and call you forward. Feeling happier and getting to being in that state of "being happy" longer and longer, there is a way of getting there:

  • start with feeling appreciation.
  • Instead of wanting, pushing, struggling to change anything outside of you... try to change your view and start centering yourself and realize that everything that currently is, is fine. Only when you make peace with someone or some thing will things lift.
  • ah! which makes me realize that Michael hit it on the head as of course when we make peace with ourselves... we are not actively wanting to go anywhere we are absolutely pleased with ALL that is where we are here and now and it feels all is well and that time stands still. (Some call this meditating. It also works just sitting in a field or even on the toilet.)
Hm! Well that asks for more playing with new experience... ! Love it!

Thursday, January 20, 2011

bridging the gap

Back from hols! Holy days. Hip hip!

The last few weeks have brought up much joy, some grief and the usual bust your balls or else. Nothing out of the ordinary in that sense. But! Some things were -again- very useful to come across and to discuss with others too. (I had immense fun as well finishing an art project with fellow collaborator Joi.)

In two areas I spotted the "bridging of the gaps":
  1. between where we are now and that goal we envision in our brain
  2. the communication gap that exists between what we can now understand and that place where we will grasp more eureka and ahas further down the track
These 2 have something in common and I'm not just talking the obvious gap here. The illuminated thought has crossed my curly brain that perhaps these things could either be:
  • one and the same thing?
  • 2 birds of a feather flock together or 
  • door number 3: quantum mechanics
Take your pick.

What I find snazzy in this wee theory is that indeed we are unable to explain something for example that we have experienced in great exciting detail if the listener is not in the "frame of mind" where we currently exist to comprehend our endeavor. It's like explaining how to make Chinese to an Italian in Russian. Precisely. (Banging head against wall.)

So here is a recipe:
Don't tell someone more then what they can chew (or what they can follow). It's unlikely a stock broker has any understanding of the world of sewing and needles, and no skydiver has been expected to be thrilled to attend a seminar of manicurists. 

So! What makes great sense is if you wish to "upgrade" someone in the sharing of a story is to do this in steps. Every time you add to the story in a slightly more out of the box frame then before and see where you can get to. I have done this experiment and discovered I could take it to a certain point and then discovered the train station, which I knew was the boundary of where that person wished to go at that particular time. They were unable to follow me further afield. This is fine. We are all equipped to understand more in particular very "niche" areas. All of us have our own train stations with various platforms.

Or has some people have said:
"You can't hear what you are not ready to understand." Or in simple words: understanding goes as far as what knowledge and comprehension has been downloaded in your being. So, to return to the "bridging of the gap":
  • if you wish to understand better, open your mind more (go multi dimensional).
  • if you wish to judge less... accept grey as a primary intricate colour
  • if you wish to grow greatly apply the 2 points above.
So here's to Live long and prosper!